Ok so although names haven't been mentioned, there is a post over on UKS about me. It seems that I have upset someone so much by taking the P that they are unable to sleep or eat. Now I could have ignored this 'feel sorry for me' post as my name hasn't been mentioned, but knowing that the PM system could be being used to spread the word, I have decided to give my side of the story. I have chosen to do this on my personal blog, as if I do it on UKS it will open the floodgates for a full on bitchfest, which will do no one any good.
The thread starter used to be on the same team as me, way back in the day when we were squirrels. It soon became clear to me that I wasn't going to gel with this person, and we were very different in character. We stayed on the same team for months, but the posts being made by others dwindled and dwindled, until there were only a few made a day. All of the posts made by the person in question were moaning about this that and the other.... seriously, ALL of them. It came to a point where I dreaded going on to the team thread, to be confronted with more depressing posts. I for one use UKS and other forums as a kind of escape from the hum drum of real life. We all have our problems, and whilst teamies are there to offer support, you really do not want to be hearing about someone else's moans continually. I have been through a really shocking time in the past couple of years, and whilst my online friends know about what I am going through, I wouldn't dream of inflicting my misery on them in my posts. I decided to leave the squirrels as I really couldn't face any more doom and gloom posts. It was at this point that the person in question sent me a PM asking if I was leaving because of them. I sent a PM back and told it straight. It wasn't a nasty reply, just one that stated clearly why I no longer felt that I wanted to be on the same team. My fellow squirrels sent me lovely messages of support, and we decided that we would start a new team, now that everything had been aired, and hopefully sorted. So came the Invaders... new team, new start. BUT, the person in question soon fell back into her old ways. Post after post of misery and moaning and not much else. Now I know that I am not the only person that this annoyed the living daylights out of... and so the sarcasm and teasing started. At no point was the person in question personally attacked, and neither was I the only person to be taking the P... as the UKS post would suggest. Once again it got to a stage where I felt as though I needed to take a step away from the team, for the sake of my sanity. So I started a chat thread where myself and a couple of others went to chat, away from the team.
It is at this point that I feel I should explain the form that the 'teasing' took, just so there are no misunderstandings. The person in question used to post a lot about the weather,and that was it... not a bit about the weather then move on to talk about something else... just a short statement of what the weather was doing there. So we all started to make weather reports in our posts.
In the 'none team' thread, I made a comment to the others that went along the lines of 'no weather reports today, do you think she realised we were taking the mess'. And it is that comment that made her spit her dummy out and leave the team. Now I am not upset at all that she has left the team. However, I do think that it is a tad hypocritical to post that you are so upset and affected by what was 'teasing'. Think back to the praise-a-thon saga, as a team we all took part in teasing and taking the mess out of the praise hoggers... YOU did too. YOU took part in the blatant P taking of others. So if you read a post in a thread that you weren't invited into, a post that didn't even mention your name, and saw your arse over it... think again. The teasing this time was no different to last time. And you had so many hints dropped over the past few months about being more cheerful, upbeat and jolly... You may well be upset by the comments that I made... but think how upset you would have been if I, and the others you p*ssed off, had sent you a PM telling you that we had had enough of you... maybe I should have done that... they say honesty is always the best policy!
I do not consider myself to be a bully, a cruel person or nasty in anyway. I don't however suffer fools gladly, and being the person that I am, I can be sarcastic. If this situation had arisen in real life, as in not online, I would have behaved in the same way, and it would have come across as sacastic teasing. I have a dry sense of humour, as do many of my online friends... although this may get lost in translation.
And to all those people who feel sorry for the said person... please remember that this situation has resulted from months and months of miserable posts. It would take a saint or someone else as miserable not to have responded in some way!